The answer to the Fermi Paradox, rather than being a needle in a haystack, is turning into an embarrassment of riches:
Asteroid strike
AGW+willful ignorance
Super-Carrington event
Nuclear War
Unregulated-LLM insanity
Presumption of technological/social resilience
Some of the "great filters" assume a *technological* civilization was able to rise up to start with.
A number of the emerging hurdles can prevent the emergence of anything but the most basic forms of life.
Instead of throwing up made up, wishful thinking numbers into the drake equation, the proper first step is identifying a significant number of stable sun-sized stars. Then identify the system planets and see how many reside in the habitable zone, have an atmosphere, and what kind of an atmosphere.
Then try to figure out how long that planet has been habitable.
Because for most of its 4.54B years, Earth itself was not habitable by our standards. Multicellular organisms only go back 600M years.
And then there is the matter of intelligence and its survival. The human lineage can be traced to a population bottleneck of a few hundred specimens. Entire lineages of hominids died out despite intelligence level comparable to homo sapiens sapiens. They didn't last long enough to develop any kind of civilization. And even today, there are pockets of humanity that never developed any but the most basic form of civilization.
By every known measure, we are outliers on a barely habitable planet in an oddball planetary system around an unusual stable star. Most stars are binaries. Most stars are red dwarfs. Even the sun's neighborhood in the galaxy is unusual within a low density bubble created by supernova explosions.
We don't know enough to be even pretending to know why we exist , much less wondering why we seem to be alone. Occams Razor suggests that absent indisputable evidence to the contrary, we appear to be alone because we are alone.
As we work to learn more and more about our place in the universe and how we got here, the evidence piling up points to us being a low probability outcome, lucky to have survived even this far.
And we're not done; it is just that now we can start worrying about surviving our own Great Filters.