If the regulatory agencies start reacting to unlikely "what ifs" every time some failure happens, then they need to do it in a process similar to what I described, where they put it in a logical context of what the "if" probabilities are and what the conditional consequences are. That process is called risk assessment. It is used elsewhere, including by NASA. It isn't perfect, but it is better than just stopping everything that you don't understand (because you weren't involved) until you learn and catch-up. In this case, it only took 2 days for the FAA to agree that it was not something that needed to ground all Falcon 9 launches indefinitely. What would have been the risk if they had not immediately issued a stop, but studied it quickly to decide if they should issue a stop? It looks like SpaceX might have been able to get off 2 more launches in that time frame, both landing on barges. If both of those had resulted in the same landing failures, what would the consequences have been to public safety? The answers is there still would have been no consequences to public safety. And, SpaceX's next 2 launches and barge landings both were accomplished without any further "mishaps".
The contrast between how the FAA is handling "mishaps" at SpaceX compared to how it has handled the Boeing 737MAX crashes (note the plural) and the Boeing StarLiner thruster failures (note the plural) reminds me of the types of biases I have seen elsewhere in other regulatory agencies. No, that does not "prove" that the FAA is biased against SpaceX, but it does not look good for the FAA's reputation, either. And, like it or not, even "independent" regulatory agencies are not immune to political pressures and interventions - in multiple directions, simultaneously. There are often "middle managers" with conflicting agendas responding to outside or higher-up pressures in conflicting manners. I would be very surprised if the FAA is just "one big happy family" on many of these issues - but not surprised that some spokesperson for the agency would make that claim.