I think the biggest problem is thinking of the big bang as the universe.
Throw away that idea and think of the universe as a foggy bubble of quantum fluctuation and the big bang as just an event in that bubble then the reality comes into focus.
Quantum fluctuation a property caused by void space, matter a property of unbalanced quantum fluctuation at the start, big bang a property of gravity/time compression disturbance.
Everything could be that simple and the begging is just a void space potential energy property.
Throw away that idea and think of the universe as a foggy bubble of quantum fluctuation and the big bang as just an event in that bubble then the reality comes into focus.
Quantum fluctuation a property caused by void space, matter a property of unbalanced quantum fluctuation at the start, big bang a property of gravity/time compression disturbance.
Everything could be that simple and the begging is just a void space potential energy property.